Friday, July 22, 2016

Why This Presidential Election is a Nightmare to Adopted Kids Like My Daughter

We are so grateful to have been able to adopt Madeline from China. She has brought us so much joy.

I have written extensively about my experiences as a mother and adoption. I never call myself my daughter's 'adoptive mother' because that is not how I think of myself. I am her mother, my husband is her father. We are her parents, plain and simple. Madeline was born in China, but is an American citizen. Before we left to bring her home to the states, she was sworn in while in my husband's arms at the American consulate. She is proud to be an American -- and has always been no less than confident about her place in this country. This presidential has shaken that confidence -- and I won't stand for it. Words have power -- and I hope these can help stem the tide of racism that is threatening the soul of our country. Here's my latest for The Stir that explains why. Thanks for reading.

Wednesday, July 13, 2016

Talbots' Dresses: My Secret Weapon When Dressing to Impress

Dressing to impress while interviewing celebrities and media mavens for my 'Lunch' column at Michael's restaurant in New York City

Having worked in fashion before becoming a writer, (I started at Vogue the same day Anna Wintour did) I have always loved clothes. Back in the day I was lucky enough to have had a wardrobe allowance from Donna Karan and my pre-motherhood clothing budget was a lot bigger than it is today. For my 'Lunch' column, every week I sit across the table from some of the world's most successful people while trying to ask them interesting questions, write down their answers and eat -- all at the same time. The last thing I want to think about (besides whether or not I have food in my teeth) is my appearance. That's why I love #Talbots. If you haven't checked them out in a while, you need to. Their dresses are my absolute favorite -- and I've pretty much worn them for every big interview I've done. Their colors are great, they fit me perfectly and they're affordable enough that I can buy multiple styles every season. (Please don't tell my husband) I just scored three dresses at their Red Hanger Sale -- all for under $200. Their regular priced styles won't break the bank, either. This collage features some of my favorite styles that I've worn when interviewing Outlander's Diana Gabaldon and Ronald D. Moore, Charles Spencer, Tamsen Fadal, Kathryn Leigh Scott among other famous faces. Thanks Talbots for making me look as good as I feel in your dresses!

Friday, July 8, 2016

American Girl Introduces New Dolls That Celebrate Inclusiveness & Friendship

The new Wellie Wishers from American Girl emphasize personality over ethnicity  Image: American Girl

As regular readers of this blog know, I have spent more than my fair share of afternoons at American Girl in New York City. It is my daughter Madeline's favorite shopping destination. A few years ago, the company discontinued its 'friends' dolls and with it, stopped selling their only doll identified as Asian. Needless to say, we were not happy and I rallied the troops with this piece on

Last year, we were thrilled when we saw that AG had added a 'Truly Me' doll that looked like Madeline and while not officially identified as Asian, was clearly intended to look like girls with the same coloring and facial characteristics as my daughter. Even The New York Post's Page Six thought so:

Imagine our delight last week when we visited the store and discovered that American Girl's newest collection of dolls, Wellie Wishers, includes a doll who also appears to be Asian. There are five dolls in the collection which also include an African-American doll and another that could be identified as Latina as well as the requisite blonde and strawberry blonde. "Each have the same big, bright wish: to be a good friend" according to the store's promotional materials. An associate at the store explained that while they clearly represent various ethnic groups, they are intended to be identified by personality traits versus race. What a great message for girls -- especially now. "I'm just happy they're not all blonde," said Madeline when we saw them for the first time.

American Girl's new Wellie Wisher dolls include Emerson, an Asian-looking doll who "loves the spotlight."

She was even happier when we spotted a doll without hair prominently featured in a display case. American Girl now makes a Truly Me doll in a variety of skin tones, faces and eye colors without hair. The company's website gently explains that they "understand all hair loss conditions are not permanent" and "should your child's need for a doll without hair ever change," they will send a free doll-head replacement. "This will really make girls who might be sick feel better to have a doll that looks like they're going through the same thing," said Madeline who seemed a bit awed by this.

Kudos to the company for making these very significant additions to their already great product line in helping little girls everywhere feel included, empowered and important. Well done!

American Girl now offers a doll without hair for those girls who may be undergoing treatment that has resulted in hair loss. Photos: Madeline Donovan